When Families Struggle, What Can Jesus Youth Do? (BJRE087)

When Families Struggle, What Can Jesus Youth Do?

(By Dr. Edward Edezhath. Published in Kairos Magazine in 2025) 

The other day, while I was driving, my daughter started talking about her friends and their families. “Many of them are struggling,” she said. “Some young couples are already separated, and others don’t know where to turn for help. Do you know anyone who can support them?”

I mentioned a few priests and counselors, but she hesitated. “They need someone to listen and guide them—someone who truly understands them. Yet, the moment they hear ‘priest’ or ‘counselor,’ they feel judged or disconnected. Can’t we involve ordinary people who empathize and are willing to help?”

Her inquiry prompted reflection.

Periods of Rapid Change

In 1988, I visited Taizé, France, and was shocked by what I heard—divorce rates were skyrocketing in the West, and many families were disintegrating. When they inquired about the situation in India, I confidently replied, “I don’t know of a single divorce among my family or friends.”

Fast forward to today—how different things have become! Separation has now become common, even among committed Christian families. Why?

Some argue that society has evolved, suggesting that people no longer feel the need to “silently suffer” in unhappy marriages. Others contend that while women have gained more confidence, men have not adapted to walking alongside strong, independent partners.

Then there’s the relentless pace of life—demanding careers, exhausting parenting, and a lack of extended family support. All of this creates immense pressure on marriages.

Many just acknowledge these changes and move on. But shouldn’t we be asking how we can help families navigate these challenges?

There is some support, but we need more.

To be fair, the Church and society do provide some assistance—marriage preparation courses, family enrichment programs, workshops on relationships and parenting, and media filled with advice on family life.

But let’s be honest—it isn't enough. Many families still feel isolated and struggle without a true support system. So, what more can we do?

Jesus Youth: Building a Culture of Strong Families

Reflecting on my young adult life, I found it rich with meaningful relationships—deep friendships, a supportive community, and mentors who truly cared. In our prayer community, I had numerous opportunities to converse, seek guidance, and share experiences with people of all ages. Some families welcomed me into their homes, making me feel comfortable enough to ask for help during difficult times.

This informal support prepared me for marriage better than any course ever could.

After I married Audry, something beautiful happened: we joined a small group of families that met regularly. We were the youngest, but the older couples encouraged us, shared their experiences, and helped us grow together. A priest, Fr. Jose Palatty, was there to guide us, but most of the support came from one another.

This is what Jesus Youth can offer today: a culture of strong, joyful, and connected families.

How can Jesus Youth make a difference?

A Simple and Natural Approach: Professional counseling or spiritual guidance can seem intimidating. However, people are more inclined to talk with a friendly Jesus Youth—someone who listens without judgment or attempts to “fix” them.

Informal, warm, and welcoming: Jesus Youth groups are vibrant and personable, not strict or daunting. They make families feel at home and help them form genuine friendships.

Multicultural and Intergenerational: A JY community resembles Noah’s Ark—bringing together people from diverse cultures, backgrounds, and age groups to support one another.

Accompaniment Through Life’s Changes: Young families face numerous challenges, including job losses, parenting struggles, sudden crises, and relationship tensions. Being part of a JY support system truly makes a difference.

A Culture of Service: Jesus Youth emphasizes generosity. Families trained in giving and serving naturally become sources of strength for others.

Faith at the Core, Yet Expressed Naturally: JY families are deeply Christian but do not preach in a way that feels forced. Their lifestyle naturally attracts and inspires others.

A Journey of Friendship That Never Ends: Once you become part of a Jesus Youth network, you are never alone. The friendships, guidance, and encouragement continue to grow over time.

A Challenge to Jesus Youth Families

Returning to my daughter’s question—who can assist struggling families? I told her, “A joyful and level-headed Jesus Youth family offers the best support any couple can receive.”

The Holy Spirit has already bestowed upon us this gift—a way to live joyfully as a family while reaching out to and supporting others. Let’s be intentional about this mission. Let’s open our homes and our hearts.

By strengthening families, we also strengthen the Church and the world.

Topics:

JY Family Ministry

Family in conflict

Small groups


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